Hi Toby,

The facts and statistics about memory foam sleepers versus claims that memory foam mattresses sleep hot are widely opposite.  Memory foam mattresses are selling in the multi-millions nationwide and only a small percentage of sleepers experience discomfort from sleeping hotter.  For those who sleep hot already, a memory foam mattress will not inflame the problem but not solve it.  As you get better sleep from a memory foam mattress, there is achance you will sleep warmer until your body can adjust to deep, restful sleep.  Pressure relief improves your body's circulation and with good circulation, your body will need to toss and turn less.

Mattresses should not necessarily need to be easy to move around or toss and turn on if you intend to sleep soundly with out moving around all night.  Slower responding memory foam is generally just Tempur-Pedic Contour models or Tempur-Pedic HD models.  The rest in the memory foam type like Simmons Comfor-Pedics and Serta iComfort, and Tempur-Pedic Cloud beds all respond quickly.  If recovery time is an issue, the iComfort are the right kind of memory foam mattress for you.

The two Beautyrest Black models you have tried are not recommended for most side sleepers.  A Plush or ideally a Plush Pillow Top in the Beautyrest Black line are what is recommended for better side sleeping.  The iComfort Revolution bed is a great match since it is right in the middle of firm and soft so you and your husband can sleep great.  I would at least give it 2-3 months of trying it before you decide to return/exchange as memory foam models can take some adjusting to.